Last week was the fourth Qingming after Jeannie's passing. To say it feels like the four years passed so fast would be a lie but nevertheless here we are, four year on.
Qingming is a tradition we observe and that will continue though we know it is for the symbolism that we do it. Fundamentally, it has to do with whether one believes in an afterlife or if there is one at all.
To us it has more to do with filial piety, respect and keeping an annual tradition of visiting places where remains of loved ones are interred; breaking daily routines to mark remembrance. There is absolutely no need to physically go there but voluntarily going through motions that symbolize reverence is a right thing to do.
A paradoxical but forthright typical question on the day is, "...you think Mummy will be going along?".
This year's qingming we started a new tradition. J.J. who is 21 this year will henceforth be responsible for organizing and buying lunch on qingming. After all, eventually there will only be Krystyn and J.J.... and their respective families of course.
The inaugural lunch last week was at the Veg Fish Farm Thai Restaurant, Hulu Langat.